If you think that I have forgiven him or expect you to do the same, you're wrong. [Also you apparently haven't been listening and are annoying him now.] What I expect you to do is consider that the one living here is not the one living there. Consider how he must feel with the news of things he's yet to do that are beyond his comprehension as he is now, much as it would be if it were you, and then consider how to best treat him as he exists in this place, rather than what you would do to him as he exists there.